So my husband and I have chosen to live our lives with structured flexibility as we want to live beyond ourselves. And we are leading our little Colette in this way too- we want her to learn to be adaptable. This Christmas week was filled with situations to try. We had a few parties with a gathering of 30+ people, filled with tonnes of cute but loud kids as well. So imagine the noise with all these people, singing, kids that’s had lots of sugar and a joyful group of friends. Definately made me anxious as Colette’s never been in such a situation and I wasn’t sure how the noise and stimulation would affect her. But we knew these types of situations would be inevitable and they were important to us, so no better time than now to take the plunge!
So one time, the party was at a friends house, and the other was in our home. Both times Colette did not nap well – waking up 45 minutes into her nap. I wasn’t sure if it was the new environment (i.e. loud noise and stimulation of people), or just her having an “off” day as she has had a tendency for shorter naps in the past little while. Through these situations, I did have a revelation – “tomorrow is a new day”. For our Christmas party, our church community decided to actually celebrate the “spirit” of Christmas which is Jesus’ birth. So we held a Birthday party for Jesus. Throughout the night, I was stressing on having half my mind on hosting people and the other half thinking about what to do for Colette and how to help her. I remember when I was nursing her, I just thought to myself, you know what, this party is important to me and I want to be present! Yes I love my baby and want to help her, but if she’s having a bad day – she’s having a bad day, and tomorrow will be a new day and she will be OKAY. That really helped me let go of my worries and anxiety and attend the party with more peace in my heart.